There are days you will feel so overwhelmed you will just want to open a door and scream... But of course, most don't do that and instead turn to other coping mechanisms. Sometimes good ones, other times bad. Below is a list of ways to ease your stress and help the problem instead of growing the stress.
1. When you have a problem, don’t post it- Pray, consult close friends and family or consult a pastor. If you need to talk to someone, call them, go get a cup of coffee, have dinner. The reality is that most people in an online setting don’t care all that much and many find it entertaining to read about other’s problems. If you don’t think that is true, you haven’t seen any reality TV or been online in a while.
2. Forgive other people- STOP the madness of hate. Take ownership for your part and your actions, then forgive the other person for theirs. Doesn’t matter if you think they deserve it or not. Let it go, it is killing you!
3. Stop Watching TV or Surfing the Net- Invest in one-on-one relationships. Spend time with your spouse and children. Call a friend or go volunteer your time. Productive relationships will give your life more purpose and direction than watching other people pretend to be other people.
4. If a friend or family member has a problem, don’t post it- Go see them, call them on the phone, have dinner together; make human contact. Pray for them and actually help them if you can. Utilize the practices of privacy, compassion and sympathy.
5. Stay off the news sites- 95% of what you read is negative and 98% of that 95% you can’t do anything about anyway. Focus on the people you actually live with and come in contact with on a daily basis.
6. Vote- This is one of the times you can do something about what is going on, especially if you don’t like how your local school board, city, county, State or U.S. reps are leading. Before you vote, research a candidate’s past voting records and future promises. This does not require an 18 month news feed. There are city, county, State and U.S websites that you can go to and review a person’s voting record and minutes from previous meetings. Read them, formulate you own opinion, ask new candidates questions, read their platforms, and then vote and move on.
7. Get Spiritual- Cultivate you relationship with God. Find a church and go Worship. Tithe your income. Share the love that God has for you with others. Soon you will find yourself thinking of others first and that is a good thing.
8. Turn your phone off- When you are in the company of others, turn it off. Focus on the people you are face to face with, they are the most important person in the room.
9. Say “please” and “thank you.” Courtesy and respect are valued by most people, but many never receive it.
Have a Blessed Summer!